An abusive partner does not only hurt you with his/her fist, words, or actions. Sometimes even when they’re not there, they still hurt you, because pain endures. In a recent post shared on Instagram, country star Jana Kramer talked about beginning to step into the light after enduring an abusive relationship and living with the shame of the memories for years.
Jana Kramer Shares Her Newfound Wisdom with Fans
In an Instagram post shared on Monday, the “Beautiful Lies” singer, 37, talked about her choice to ignore the negative voices in a powerful message that explores moving forward from unhealthy relationships in a healthy way.
She also shared a pair of pictures with the post, rewriting a mantra to read: “I’m not broken. I AM enough.”
“The voices in my head… . I’ve been mentally, physically and emotionally abused in past relationships. I allowed certain behaviors to continue on because I actually believed the negative voices in my head that were spoken to me,” she wrote, then sharing examples of the toxic comments: ” ‘No one will want you’. … ‘you’re the problem’. … ‘I’m going to kill you’….. ‘I barely pushed you, don’t be so dramatic’… ‘you bruise easily, I hardly touched you, you’re crazy’… ‘if you wore something sexier I would sleep with you’…. ‘You are the common denominator.’ “
“All the words, and abuse equaled, I’m not enough. And I’m not worthy of love,” said Kramer.
“For years I’ve repeated patterns, fallen into the trap of believing those voices, hurting myself and hurting others because of my desire to be chosen, to be enough,” the country singer continued. “And I’ve fallen for the same abuse in a relationship because it’s what I thought I deserved.”
Kramer concluded the heartfelt message by writing that “healing” is to “stop those negative voices.” She wrote: “Now is the time to grow, learn, HEAL, and love ourselves. We are enough. You are enough. I am enough. ‘I’m done with voices in my head.’ “
“Let’s choose to believe the positive voices,” she added.
Kramer Opens Up About Enduring Domestic Abuse
Jana Kramer recently filed for divorce from her third husband Mike Caussin in July. The pair share two kids: son Jace Joseph, 2, and daughter Jolie Rae, 5.
While Kramer did not hint at which of her relationships she was addressing with the post, she previously opened up to PEOPLE in 2017 about her first husband, Michael Gambino, who regularly beat and choked her during most of their marriage.
At the time, she explained that she was too ashamed of the situation to quit it. She shared the strings of painful abuse that ultimately landed Gambino in prison for attempted murder in 2005. He was found guilty of attempted murder and was sentenced to six years in prison. In 2010, he was released from prison and died by suicide two years later.
“I literally walked around on eggshells, terrified to tell anybody, because I was so ashamed of the situation I had put myself in. I was like I put myself in this and now I have to figure out how to get out of it, or stay in it and make it better,” she added.
“All I’ve ever wanted is to be loved, to love someone and to have a family,” said Kramer at the time. “I don’t have everything figured out obviously, but I feel like I’m in a place where I don’t have to be ashamed. I don’t want to play the victim. Even though my past isn’t pretty, it’s shaped me into the person I am today, and now I want to help people. I want to help women out of bad situations.”
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